Pick-Up Artist Techniques

Some guys will never become great with women.

“What?!”

You might think I’ve lost my mind, but it’s true.

A lot of guys just won’t get it.

And it’s not because they’re not smart enough or somehow defective…

In fact, it’s a subconscious choice, that they have made unknowingly.

I know what you’re thinking.

“How can I make sure I’m not one of those guys?”

Am I right?

Well I’m here to tell you how. You will probably never hear what I’m about to say from other gurus because it’s such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.

Meet Matt. Matt’s a good guy, likes to be social and has taken a bootcamp with another one of the pickup companies. But Matt still doesn’t get the success he really wants; in fact he’s not successful at all.

“Vin, why don’t you help him!?”

There are a couple reasons why I don’t help Matt out. One being he’s too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that’s not the real reason. If Matt was only stubborn I’d have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can’t help him is the same reason why he isn’t successful with women.

I’ve already said Matt’s a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

We don’t like hanging out with Matt and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he’s trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens to Matt when he’s talking to women. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on another level he has an underlying intention.

Having intentions with women isn’t a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they’ll accept it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won’t trust you or feel safe being around you alone. You could be the best actor in the world but… THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the “Death” card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will kill any chance of success you might have.

So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?

Well to start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It’s not about giving back money. It could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.

Be out there talking to women not only because you want to pickup, but because women are amazing and fun and interesting and wonderful.

Next you need to start doing is being clear about your intentions. This doesn’t mean directly telling a girl “The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your pants.” That’s going to kill your pickup about as fast as being creepy.

There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you’re congruent with what you’re saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

Do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require? I didn’t think so. I wouldn’t want to spend the months writing that novel either.

I caught a recent episode of Mystery’s the Pick-Up which was aired on VH1 a few weeks ago and wanted to share with you guys my synopsis.

Out of the four dudes left, here’s some predictions:

Joe: I think this guy has got serious potential on the show. He’s got the attitude down, but he’s the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He’ll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. Not true master pua material. I just don’t see the kind of passion that would drive him to Master PUAdom. He may do well on the show, but just due to the lack of competition.

Brady: Tall, good looking and fast learner. He’s chill, makes steady progress. His use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself is what’s holding himself back. If he just chills out and acts normal he’ll be on fire. Again though, like Joe, will probably become complacent at a some level.

Alvaro: This guy could become a master pua, but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery’s tuleage. He has an “inner flame” that drives him to excel at different things, but he’s going to need to work to get consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He’s still got the brakes on. The moment he gets past that, his game will explode.

Pradeep: Could become a master pua, but he’s gotta seriously increase his sensuality. He’s in the friend zone still. Doesn’t matter if he got that chick’s number on the show because that was friendly number close. He’s interesting but… too interesting. It’s giving the girl something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc…

What I liked:

Mystery’s Ridiculous Outfits. No one can peacock like mystery, hands down. And the shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don’t believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It’s a trainwreck.

The Students. I love pick up students in general, they’re always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for the even the smallest amounts of improvement they make. Students are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do.

The Challenges. Creative, fun and entertaining. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.

What I don’t like:

Mystery not knowing why some of his students fail… He’s so attached to his structured method, he literally has blind spots as to why his students get blown out… “Yeah he should have used a false time constraint”. How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?

Using 4 year old, tired-out material, like “flossing before you brush etc..” Come on, we stopped using that stuff 3 years ago for GOOD reason! LAME, non-sensual conversation that goes NOWHERE! Sure you’ll get the girl to answer your question, but that’s not always what I call PROGRESS. If you’re going to have the guys memorizing routines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?

J-Dog’s hair. I don’t think I need to go into this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.

In conclusion, it was a super entertaining show and I’ll try to catch another episode if I can.

Let me introduce to you a concept called SHAPING.

Shaping includes a number of tools that are used to set a strong precedent of behavior in a girl.

Quick Question:

Have you been in situation with a girl, and she asked you if you were honest , reliable or had a good relationship with your family?

Do you remember feeling motivated to answer in a way to impress a girl?

- or -

Have you ever been with a girl, and she talked about how she loved when her boyfriend did something very special?

Do you remember feeling motivation to perhaps do the same thing?

Of course… we’ve all been there.

What’s important here is not the outcome was in those situations, but only to be aware of the fact that you were emotionally compelled to behave in a certain way…

Whether the girl knew it or not (most likely, she didn’t) she was shaping you.

Now don’t get me wrong, this isn’t really a bad thing…

People do it to each other most of the time.

But mostly, you are encouraging a girl to behave in a way that is not in accordance to your desired outcome.

And that’s what we are going to change starting right now.

There are a number of ways on how you can start to employ shaping in your interactions with girls.

And I’ve split these ways into 5 different categories.

Now don’t get me wrong. This is a huge topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping alone.

Right now I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can begin to get the higher level ideas, and start to add them into your interactions.

So let’s look at the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

Screening questions are questions specifically designed to:

A) Get a girl to answer a specific way and
B) Start to behave in a manner more congruent with how she just answered you.

There are many types of screening questions, and above all you should use them in the right context.

For example, you wouldn’t start a conversation with a girl with the question “Do you consider yourself to be independent?”… but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the most overt and least subtle out of all the shaping techniques.

These are easy to employ right away, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to the girl.

2. Showing that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, except this time you are making a statement.

It’s a little less obvious, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining three techniques.

Instead of saying something like “What was the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?” (which is a screening question) You might say something like “Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life.”

Because you are justifying your statement with a truism (it’s hard to argue that spontaneity keeps things fresh and exciting), she cannot disagree and will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she’s committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way consistent with that.

3. Setting a strong precedent through storytelling.

Now we’re getting warmer.

This technique, along with the next two, are very devious.

They are so devious, in fact, that girls use them all the time.

It’s funny actually - my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was surprised to know that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also - had already used many of them naturally!

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my best tactics have been stolen directly from the girls I know who have the VERY BEST game.

Now the idea of this 3rd concept is that you will tell a story that demonstrates what standards you expect, so that she can live up to them.

Like for instance, you could say to a girl, very early in the interaction something like:

“One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month’s copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have too many new ideas for a new outfit.”

The beauty of that is, it doesn’t even have to be true!

(I’m not going to make a moral decision for you here, I’m sure that you’re more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while ignoring the undesirable.

This is classic shaping, and can be used freely to boost-up existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea is that - if you see a girl doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior - drinking like crazy, there are different effect to it, some good, some bad.

Let’s say you like the free-spirited aspect of it, but you don’t like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control…

You could say:

“Wow, you’re so much fun! and so-free spirited. It’s cool you do things you really want to do, and don’t rely for others for direction. You follow your own will.”

By pointing out behaviors, you are in fact rewarding them and amplifying that same behavior in the future.

By pointing out the aspect of her behaviors you like, and calling attention to them, you are shaping her future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a night fast-lay with a girl. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she’ll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn’t go home with you. Sneaky, but also KILLER in the field)

5. Reward calibration

Like for instance, giving a girl cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the way you reward her ‘good’ behavior. This is highly advanced, and I am far beyond the scope of this newsletter.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as “good” behavior from a girl, it is to your benefit to reward her with something you want her to work for or chase after.

This should be either affection, physicality or getting in bed, But NOT a material or monetary. Breaking this rule is the surest way to CREATE a gold digger!

(YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a woman as a gold digger, and that my friend, is what she will be.)

Use these techniques with care and be good.

Sometimes fast lays don’t become relationships. I have become quite an expert on fast pick-ups and I can’t deny that problem.

You see, even though guys that can pull these off enjoy not only success with girls straight out of a fantasy world and typically get women obsessed with them, with a fast pick-up comes a big problem…

Sometimes a fast pick-up becomes a one-night stand, and never converts into a relationship.

Oh well, fine for those who has that kind of intention.

But a lot of times, you DO want to see the girl again - or possibly start a relationship with her.

Here’s something you might not already know - EVERY girl I have slept with in the past 2 years has been under 4 hours.

And every single one of them wanted to see me again…

Hey, I am not saying this to brag.

I’m only saying this so that you can see the immense value that I offer to you as a client of mine, and to prove a very important point:

“POTENTIAL TO START A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GIRL HAS *NOTHING* TO DO WITH HOW FAST YOU SLEEP WITH HER”

There are three major keys on how to have a continuing intimate relationship with a girl…

And it’s time for me to reveal a few myths about this.

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3 MYTHS ABOUT FAST PICK UPS
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MYTH 1: You must “build comfort” with a girl for 7+ hours before sleepingwith her.

As I said, it has nothing to do with the amount of time you spend with her before you sleep with her.

It has almost nothing to do with anything you do before you sleep with her in fact, in fact the secret lies in what you do after you sleep with her.

I have got it down to an exact science. A series of actions and behaviors that practically guarantee she will not only see you again, but also be borderline obsessed with you…

There’s no fancy stuff, routines or lines… just a natural behaviors that a person can learn in less than five minutes.

Now here’s the reality of this situation…

The reality is some of the hottest, most intelligent women I have dated liked the excitement of getting physical really fast.

It’s straight out of the movies, and very few guys can pull it off skillfully.

MYTH 2: You need to reassure the girl that you will see her again before sleeping with her.

Many men try this… they imply that the girl is “relationship material” or that he definitely wants to see her again.

Man… what a way to kill intrigue right off the bat…

Guys do this and tend to come on way to strong. They seem too interested, too needy, to desperate to get a girlfriend.

But at the same time you should never imply that it’s a one night stand, or that you’re just interested in sex.

This won’t be very effective..

MYTH 3: You have to be great in bed the first time you sleep with a girl.

One of my good friends, Julian, who is admittedly bad in bed and only lasts for about 3 minutes converts girls like *CRAZY*.

The point here is, he is NOT good in bed (his choice), and STILL gets girls so crazy about him, they won’t leave him alone…. (so he ends up playing Gears of War on his XBox360 while they sit there naked, watching him.)

At this moment you might be thinking…

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“BUT VIN, THIS IS TOO ADVANCED, I STILL HAVE
PROBLEMS PICKING UP AND SLEEPING WITH HER!”
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I understand.

But listen. You’re going to need this important information soon.

And let’s be honest - when you DO start sleeping with girls - wouldn’t you rather have the CHOICE to see them again or not?

That’s what my point is.