Pick-Up Artist Techniques

Have you avoided approaching a girl just because she is talking to another guy?

Or maybe you avoided approaching a group of girls with one or two guys with them because you feared embarrassment just because you ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

There are two reasons why guys have a fear in talking with women who were with other guys.

They assume that the girl is “with” the guy, and assume he’s her boyfriend.

Guys shouldn’t think this as a barrier of talking to a woman. Plus - she’s not a guy’s “slave” or a piece of property, so she is free to talk to whomever she chooses, especially in a social situation like in the bar where people meet other people.

Approaching oftenly a woman who is “with” a guy can make you look more confident, and draw out the jealous side of the guy, making him look insecure and weak.

The other reason points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception that’s why they avoid talking to woman who is “with” a guy.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, they assumed that the “other guy” is more cooler, stronger, or somehow powerful than they are.

This is founded in an ancient survival strategy that has been hardwired into the human brain.

It’s often hard to tell who the more “dominant” human is in any given interaction. The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn’t know how dominant the other guy is.

As was probably common thousands of years ago, a guy doesn’t know if he will be embarrassed verbally.

So it’s smart to play it safe by assuming that the other guy is a threat. Males who were too bold may have won a few confrontations, but all it took was one loss to end up dead or exiled from the tribe.

And then their genes were eliminated from “race” so to speak.

Those guys that avoided confrontation and played safe are the one that can successfully reproduce and survive.

The irony is that nowadays this hard-wired survival strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - men makes a false assumptions that will lead them to avoid approaching women unnecessarily.

The thing is, when you are in the bar or club and you see a woman talking to another guy, you would think she’s not WITH him.

Usually, they JUST MET!

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve approached a woman thinking she was “with” a guy, only to find out he was some random dude who just approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.

I have regrets when I remember that I used to completely not talking to a woman because I saw her being with another guy. So many opportunities that I’ve wasted. This brings me to my first point:

I SHOULDN’T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL I SEE A PHYSICAL EVIDENCE. I DON’T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE GIRL.

Approach a woman so that you will know what they really are. Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So use your brain - just don’t be stagnant in making a false assumptions.

Another thing that I want to talk about is the idea that the other guy can be more “dominant” than you are.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those power still exist today. Every man can survive on his own if he has the source of income - you probably have an access to food and shelter if you’re reading this. You’re all set.

Plus, its illegal to use the physical strength just to beat people up. It is pretty much irrelevant to use in the modern world.

You’ll always end up losing if you attack another person because the police always win.

If you mind doing that, you are LETTING RANDOM MEN TO STOP YOU FOR NO REASON!

Just excuse my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???

It was annoying - remembering all the girls I missed out on because I was scare about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

When time comes that you’re on your deathbed, you are going to reminisce on all the things you did and didn’t do. How painful would it be to say “I didn’t meet that woman because I was worried of the other guy she’s with,” or “there were a lot of beautiful that I could have enjoyed, but I didn’t even try to approached them because I saw them TALKING to another guy.

I don’t want to happen that to you.

So let’s look at this on a deeper level. Seeing another guy as more dominant means you don’t truly understand dominance.

You see, if you’re concerned with who is more dominant you instantly make yourself NOT dominant. There’s a better focus.

Dominant men don’t think about who is dominant. To be dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. So what do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing or want.

You see a group of girls talking to another guy. Instead of being concerned with who is more dominant between the two of you, just stay focus on the girls.

I rarely even acknowledge other guys, because too often it’s proven to be a waste of time. 9 times out of 10 the girls don’t even know the guy - they just met him.

Or if they do know the guy, it’s because he was a friend of ONE of the girls, and the rest barely know him.

It’s rare for girls to go out with a guy they are dating - usually they will bring a guy who is more of a protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable when they go out on the town.

And aside from that, if he IS with one of the girls, then it will be a fair game because it means that he’s NOT with the other girls.

When you are concerned with who’s the alpha male, you are by definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it’s questionable whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.

Don’t assume anything, get your focus in a USEFUL place, and don’t let some random dude prevent you from enjoying YOUR LIFE!

Is meeting women feels like a WORK to you?

And how does it feel that despite of all the effort you’re
doing you’re still not getting an inch closer to your goal?

If you answered YES to either of those questions, then READ
ON.

In fact, dating game can be quite frustrating.

Seeing a woman that you like but has already a boyfriend.

Everything is going smooth and fine between you and a woman
and then just suddenly she’s not returning or answering your
calls.

Not to mention the fact that as the man you pretty much have
to do everything to move things forward.

In your approach, you have to have the courage.

YOU have to keep the conversation going at first, YOU have
to escalate physically, YOU have to get HER number or rack
your brain to figure out a logistical way to take her home,
YOU have to plan the date.

Men are much higher than women when it comes to the
standards of behavior.

(Let’s not started on that…let’s just say women are
allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they
are “beautiful.”)

That can be debilitating, especially if you don’t have an
“extroverted” trait.

…I just had a client who often complained of “extroversion
fatigue.”

I knew exactly what he meant because I used to struggle with
it too.

Before I began to teach myself pickup, I would go out, and
be mentally DRAINED after talking to three or four women.

I would have to sit down and rest!

Come to think how strange the situation is, I am supposed to
have fun and relax but instead I am working harder than I
was at my full time job.

I would go home absolutely dead

… from SPEAKING TO WOMEN!

Does it make sense to you???

And there was the overall, general dating fatigue. The
emotional ups and downs, the discouraging results, the
effort I had to make just to get women to hang out with me
or to sleep with me.

It is just like I am having an overtime in my full-time job!

When I first got in this game, I literally had to force
myself to go out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I
admit, I was a nerd, and pushed it to the extreme.)

But what can I say, I was passionate about learning all this
stuff (and not to mention extremely eager for results after
years of sexual frustration).

I would push myself like professional athletes push
themselves in the gym.

I was working muscles I had never used before, or to be more
precise, I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS.

If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably
working too hard in your interactions with women.

There are three reasons for this.

First, being socially proactive may be new to you.

I recall when I first started lifting weights, I didn’t have
upper pectoral muscles - the muscle at the top of your chest
just under your clavicle that make your chest look big.

Actually I do have a small muscle but it was so weak that I
can’t even feel them. So every time worked them out I was
incredibly sore and could barely move my arms. And it took
me three good weeks to really feel them.

And then I reached a tipping point of sorts, where the
muscle was developed enough that I could handle big amounts
of weight without all the soreness and fatigue. Your mind is
the same way.

You need to push yourself harder everyday in accordance to
the level of your skills. Because developing a new
neuro-pathways will take time.

Another reason you may feel social fatigue is because you
think there’s too much to do or learn when meeting women.

It’s not really so much about “fatigue” but it’s more on
having an overwhelmed feeling.

Being overwhelmed by certain thing can cause exhaustion to
your mind that can lead to some sort of discouragement and
depression. It’s somewhat saying “ugh, I’ve had enough of
this too much. I’m giving up”

This will hinder you from doing any progress. I was in this
situation when I was putting a lot of theories on my notes.
And as I looked at them I’ve seen that I am just like
looking for a huge and complex physics equation.

Doing ALL of this stuff just to had a quality women in my
life was so discouraging to think.

The last reason for feeling exhausted in the dating and
mating game is that you are spending too much mental energy
in the wrong places, wasting your focus on stuff that isn’t
useful to pickup.

Many men fails in attracting women and in fact almost 99% of
men gets it wrong. Usually the women can’t tell because most
men after a harsh rejections learn to keep their inner
“stuff” to their self.

But of course we can’t oppose to the reality that when a guy
is attracted to a girl, he is trying his best just to win
her or at least know if the women likes him too.

It’s the man’s role to IMPRESS the woman and EARN a
fulfillment for your urge from her - as what we get from the
media, our parents and friends.

So Pathetic!

I see some advertisement of a guy bungling around to a cute
girl trying to impress her, and looking like a fool while
the girl giggles like she’s better because she is woman. - I
hate that kind of thing.

Ok enough ranting… the point is that most guys are
screwed when it comes to being in control of their dating
lives.

But if a guy takes the time to adjust the way his MIND works
when it comes to attraction, it changes everything.

Once you get to highest level of your interaction with
women, you will truly be attractive to them. You just need
to be at your best both physically and emotionally.

A GUY AT HIS BEST.

One Night Stands is the topic that I want to share with you today.

It wasn’t until I had a couple solid pickups that I started to really understand how easy all this really could be.

“Bad belief overhaul” is what I can say when I look back on those things that I did.

I began to believe that women wanted me and wants to get in bed.

I also started to think of myself as an attractive, desirable guy (even though I’m far from what’s typically considered good-looking).

Wanting to sleep with more women is the main goal of the 75% of my students.

While the others have the aim to find their someone special but I don’t think these aim are mutually exclusive.

You see, in order to find that special girl and to have the best choice, you should see and go out with a bunch of good women.

It would be impossible to meet your someone special if you don’t socialize and meet with a bunch of good women.

There’s a very common phase that every good pickup artist goes through when he gets started. He begins learning new ways of thinking and behaving, and lo and behold, he starts meeting and sleeping with a LOT OF WOMEN.

Like a kid that uses all his new powers just to have all that he wants in the candy store.

There is a need of learning in order to dump out your old way and start with a new reality - that I am desirable that women can’t resist to sleep with me.

So it’s important that you have a few really fast, casual sensual encounters, in order to get the ball rolling on forming new beliefs.

I’m telling about a same day lays or a one-night stand.

Now if you’ve never had a one night stand, or maybe got lucky a couple of times when you were drunk, having a one-night ’stands at-will’ can seem just as out-of-reach as having a great girlfriend.

But you know what you are doing and is able to learn new things, you will find it very easy to do.

But a lot of men are making a way that is too hard for themselves, where they never be able to gain the initial sensual experience that will lead them to feel like “natural.”

If you’re going though with this newsletter, then you really want to MASTER THE GAME aside from getting BETTER with woman.

Mastery of the game comes from within and it start right through your mindset and leads to a visible results that form New Beliefs in your mind.

These new beliefs become the foundation for your new reality, where you naturally attract women without even thinking about it.

cannot always bring home the hottest girl in the place.

You can get a solid number from her, but whether or not a woman is open to going home with a guy on a particular night varies widely.

However, there are LOTS of horny women moving around the clubs and bar anytime of the day that are open in getting lay that same day or night. And all you have to do is have a knowledge and ability to spot them.

The things that I look in spotting them are in the way how they dressed, how much make-up they put on their face and other things that relates to how they look physically. Remember that there is a reason why women exert a lot of effort in order to look beautiful.

They want to be approached. This of course, isn’t always true, but is generally the case.

Another thing that you can spot that a woman is looking for attention is when she is being so loud and animated.

And the last thing that I look for, are women that are all standing and scoping around the room with blank expressions. Also those women that is looking around the room more often than the other girls in their group.

These women are obviously making themselves out there, waiting to be notice by men.

Now when you approach, take it easy - don’t go in full-steam running your clever routines and your cocky frame control stuff.

Just be light, social, and let them know you are interested in meeting them. A simple “hey, you guys look great tonight. Special occasion?” is enough.

You should not openly discuss to the woman that you are looking to take her home and get her into bed. Because, if you talk about that, you’re putting a woman to a point where is to agree to implicitly bang with you.

Instead you want to build sensual tension, as we discuss heavily in our workshops.

This will be against a woman’s “rules” and she’ll definitely be keeping distance from you. And you really need a logistic information to know how you can get her back to your place.

So before that thing happen, you have to remove some of your overt sensual intention and try not to let her know that you are trying to pick her up.

You must have the willingness to control the situation and knows how to enjoy while having the escalation in the right way.

This is how it will works although it may sound that counter intuitive.

You have to trust that women wants to get in bed, and that a lot of the women in the venue wants to lay NOW.

Some won’t, but some will, and that’s why it’s key that you get a sense of what to look for, and how to proceed.

I know you don’t what to invest a lot of your time to pick the right girl and then just mess it up after a long interaction. Or to spend your time to a wrong girl or worse.

It will just be a waste of time.

The first thing that some guys do when they meet a girl is to show off that they understand every game.

They’ll start to talk about evolution, alpha males, how they know that women are more intimate than men and how women will always cheat on their boyfriends.

Now that is so nonsense as “The Talk of Death”

Let me tell you why, and also I will give you an idea of what to do instead.

As what I have learned in pick-up, these kind of conversation is very poor with women especially with the hot ones.

This will not work for the girl that any man in his right mind would be attracted to.

There are a few major things wrong with this strategy:

(BTW - if you happen to meet a girl that loves this kind of stuff, by all means talk about it, I’m just saying it should not be used for most of female population as an ATTRACTION strategy)

1. It puts a girl on the defensive. It’s like one country revealing it’s battle plans to another country that it is at war with.

It shows that you are “thinking too much” about the dynamic, which not only is a big turn off, but also makes her think you’re going to be a mind-trip.

2. There are chances that the woman’s awareness level is about 10% of yours.

Especially if you’re keeping up on my newsletters about the concept called “Stepped Awareness”.

Have you tried playing a song you LOVED for a friend and they just didn’t get it?

It’s because their awareness didn’t go through the same process that yours had - and ended in you really liking the song…

Don’t you think it’s too alien and weird sharing about “the unique mating patters of the bonobo apes and how it relates to girls in the club”, to a girl that spends the majority of her time thinking on having a new shoes, celebrities and her problems with her boss.

It’s the same reason why you’ll sometimes see the biggest AFC ever with a smoking hot girl. He’s normal, and she can easily introduce him to her friends without embarrassment!

3. For a woman that DOES understand it; what you’re talking may seems like a big deal, when it should be plainly obvious.

There are about 5-10% of women that actually can get this stuff. It’s obvious, intuitive and accepted for them.

These women tend to also like women, capable of having an open relationships, and generally a lot of fun.

But here’s the thing - the guys they end up dating ALSO get this stuff intuitively.

And when you get something intuitively, you’ll never go out of your way to convince another person of it, or explain it like it’s some huge revelation!

So the minute you do, the women who are most eligible for the lifestyle you’re looking for, will instantly disqualify you.

So here’s what to do instead.

These are one of the most powerful techniques I use:

- Understand society’s programming,
- Understand her specific programming, and;
- Appear to be under the exact same programming.

Keep your knowledge of REALITY to yourself (and of course, if you figure out anything amazing, I would appreciate it if you share it on my forum as well)

You’re going to see a big difference in your game.

And I want to be part of it.

Some guys will never become great with women.

“What?!”

You might think I’ve lost my mind, but it’s true.

A lot of guys just won’t get it.

And it’s not because they’re not smart enough or somehow defective…

In fact, it’s a subconscious choice, that they have made unknowingly.

I know what you’re thinking.

“How can I make sure I’m not one of those guys?”

Am I right?

Well I’m here to tell you how. You will probably never hear what I’m about to say from other gurus because it’s such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.

Meet Matt. Matt’s a good guy, likes to be social and has taken a bootcamp with another one of the pickup companies. But Matt still doesn’t get the success he really wants; in fact he’s not successful at all.

“Vin, why don’t you help him!?”

There are a couple reasons why I don’t help Matt out. One being he’s too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that’s not the real reason. If Matt was only stubborn I’d have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can’t help him is the same reason why he isn’t successful with women.

I’ve already said Matt’s a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

We don’t like hanging out with Matt and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he’s trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens to Matt when he’s talking to women. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on another level he has an underlying intention.

Having intentions with women isn’t a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they’ll accept it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won’t trust you or feel safe being around you alone. You could be the best actor in the world but… THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the “Death” card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will kill any chance of success you might have.

So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?

Well to start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It’s not about giving back money. It could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.

Be out there talking to women not only because you want to pickup, but because women are amazing and fun and interesting and wonderful.

Next you need to start doing is being clear about your intentions. This doesn’t mean directly telling a girl “The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your pants.” That’s going to kill your pickup about as fast as being creepy.

There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you’re congruent with what you’re saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

Do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require? I didn’t think so. I wouldn’t want to spend the months writing that novel either.

I caught a recent episode of Mystery’s the Pick-Up which was aired on VH1 a few weeks ago and wanted to share with you guys my synopsis.

Out of the four dudes left, here’s some predictions:

Joe: I think this guy has got serious potential on the show. He’s got the attitude down, but he’s the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He’ll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. Not true master pua material. I just don’t see the kind of passion that would drive him to Master PUAdom. He may do well on the show, but just due to the lack of competition.

Brady: Tall, good looking and fast learner. He’s chill, makes steady progress. His use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself is what’s holding himself back. If he just chills out and acts normal he’ll be on fire. Again though, like Joe, will probably become complacent at a some level.

Alvaro: This guy could become a master pua, but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery’s tuleage. He has an “inner flame” that drives him to excel at different things, but he’s going to need to work to get consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He’s still got the brakes on. The moment he gets past that, his game will explode.

Pradeep: Could become a master pua, but he’s gotta seriously increase his sensuality. He’s in the friend zone still. Doesn’t matter if he got that chick’s number on the show because that was friendly number close. He’s interesting but… too interesting. It’s giving the girl something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc…

What I liked:

Mystery’s Ridiculous Outfits. No one can peacock like mystery, hands down. And the shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don’t believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It’s a trainwreck.

The Students. I love pick up students in general, they’re always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for the even the smallest amounts of improvement they make. Students are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do.

The Challenges. Creative, fun and entertaining. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.

What I don’t like:

Mystery not knowing why some of his students fail… He’s so attached to his structured method, he literally has blind spots as to why his students get blown out… “Yeah he should have used a false time constraint”. How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?

Using 4 year old, tired-out material, like “flossing before you brush etc..” Come on, we stopped using that stuff 3 years ago for GOOD reason! LAME, non-sensual conversation that goes NOWHERE! Sure you’ll get the girl to answer your question, but that’s not always what I call PROGRESS. If you’re going to have the guys memorizing routines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?

J-Dog’s hair. I don’t think I need to go into this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.

In conclusion, it was a super entertaining show and I’ll try to catch another episode if I can.

Let me introduce to you a concept called SHAPING.

Shaping includes a number of tools that are used to set a strong precedent of behavior in a girl.

Quick Question:

Have you been in situation with a girl, and she asked you if you were honest , reliable or had a good relationship with your family?

Do you remember feeling motivated to answer in a way to impress a girl?

- or -

Have you ever been with a girl, and she talked about how she loved when her boyfriend did something very special?

Do you remember feeling motivation to perhaps do the same thing?

Of course… we’ve all been there.

What’s important here is not the outcome was in those situations, but only to be aware of the fact that you were emotionally compelled to behave in a certain way…

Whether the girl knew it or not (most likely, she didn’t) she was shaping you.

Now don’t get me wrong, this isn’t really a bad thing…

People do it to each other most of the time.

But mostly, you are encouraging a girl to behave in a way that is not in accordance to your desired outcome.

And that’s what we are going to change starting right now.

There are a number of ways on how you can start to employ shaping in your interactions with girls.

And I’ve split these ways into 5 different categories.

Now don’t get me wrong. This is a huge topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping alone.

Right now I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can begin to get the higher level ideas, and start to add them into your interactions.

So let’s look at the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

Screening questions are questions specifically designed to:

A) Get a girl to answer a specific way and
B) Start to behave in a manner more congruent with how she just answered you.

There are many types of screening questions, and above all you should use them in the right context.

For example, you wouldn’t start a conversation with a girl with the question “Do you consider yourself to be independent?”… but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the most overt and least subtle out of all the shaping techniques.

These are easy to employ right away, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to the girl.

2. Showing that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, except this time you are making a statement.

It’s a little less obvious, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining three techniques.

Instead of saying something like “What was the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?” (which is a screening question) You might say something like “Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life.”

Because you are justifying your statement with a truism (it’s hard to argue that spontaneity keeps things fresh and exciting), she cannot disagree and will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she’s committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way consistent with that.

3. Setting a strong precedent through storytelling.

Now we’re getting warmer.

This technique, along with the next two, are very devious.

They are so devious, in fact, that girls use them all the time.

It’s funny actually - my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was surprised to know that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also - had already used many of them naturally!

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my best tactics have been stolen directly from the girls I know who have the VERY BEST game.

Now the idea of this 3rd concept is that you will tell a story that demonstrates what standards you expect, so that she can live up to them.

Like for instance, you could say to a girl, very early in the interaction something like:

“One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month’s copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have too many new ideas for a new outfit.”

The beauty of that is, it doesn’t even have to be true!

(I’m not going to make a moral decision for you here, I’m sure that you’re more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while ignoring the undesirable.

This is classic shaping, and can be used freely to boost-up existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea is that - if you see a girl doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior - drinking like crazy, there are different effect to it, some good, some bad.

Let’s say you like the free-spirited aspect of it, but you don’t like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control…

You could say:

“Wow, you’re so much fun! and so-free spirited. It’s cool you do things you really want to do, and don’t rely for others for direction. You follow your own will.”

By pointing out behaviors, you are in fact rewarding them and amplifying that same behavior in the future.

By pointing out the aspect of her behaviors you like, and calling attention to them, you are shaping her future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a night fast-lay with a girl. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she’ll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn’t go home with you. Sneaky, but also KILLER in the field)

5. Reward calibration

Like for instance, giving a girl cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the way you reward her ‘good’ behavior. This is highly advanced, and I am far beyond the scope of this newsletter.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as “good” behavior from a girl, it is to your benefit to reward her with something you want her to work for or chase after.

This should be either affection, physicality or getting in bed, But NOT a material or monetary. Breaking this rule is the surest way to CREATE a gold digger!

(YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a woman as a gold digger, and that my friend, is what she will be.)

Use these techniques with care and be good.

Sometimes fast lays don’t become relationships. I have become quite an expert on fast pick-ups and I can’t deny that problem.

You see, even though guys that can pull these off enjoy not only success with girls straight out of a fantasy world and typically get women obsessed with them, with a fast pick-up comes a big problem…

Sometimes a fast pick-up becomes a one-night stand, and never converts into a relationship.

Oh well, fine for those who has that kind of intention.

But a lot of times, you DO want to see the girl again - or possibly start a relationship with her.

Here’s something you might not already know - EVERY girl I have slept with in the past 2 years has been under 4 hours.

And every single one of them wanted to see me again…

Hey, I am not saying this to brag.

I’m only saying this so that you can see the immense value that I offer to you as a client of mine, and to prove a very important point:

“POTENTIAL TO START A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GIRL HAS *NOTHING* TO DO WITH HOW FAST YOU SLEEP WITH HER”

There are three major keys on how to have a continuing intimate relationship with a girl…

And it’s time for me to reveal a few myths about this.

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3 MYTHS ABOUT FAST PICK UPS
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MYTH 1: You must “build comfort” with a girl for 7+ hours before sleepingwith her.

As I said, it has nothing to do with the amount of time you spend with her before you sleep with her.

It has almost nothing to do with anything you do before you sleep with her in fact, in fact the secret lies in what you do after you sleep with her.

I have got it down to an exact science. A series of actions and behaviors that practically guarantee she will not only see you again, but also be borderline obsessed with you…

There’s no fancy stuff, routines or lines… just a natural behaviors that a person can learn in less than five minutes.

Now here’s the reality of this situation…

The reality is some of the hottest, most intelligent women I have dated liked the excitement of getting physical really fast.

It’s straight out of the movies, and very few guys can pull it off skillfully.

MYTH 2: You need to reassure the girl that you will see her again before sleeping with her.

Many men try this… they imply that the girl is “relationship material” or that he definitely wants to see her again.

Man… what a way to kill intrigue right off the bat…

Guys do this and tend to come on way to strong. They seem too interested, too needy, to desperate to get a girlfriend.

But at the same time you should never imply that it’s a one night stand, or that you’re just interested in sex.

This won’t be very effective..

MYTH 3: You have to be great in bed the first time you sleep with a girl.

One of my good friends, Julian, who is admittedly bad in bed and only lasts for about 3 minutes converts girls like *CRAZY*.

The point here is, he is NOT good in bed (his choice), and STILL gets girls so crazy about him, they won’t leave him alone…. (so he ends up playing Gears of War on his XBox360 while they sit there naked, watching him.)

At this moment you might be thinking…

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“BUT VIN, THIS IS TOO ADVANCED, I STILL HAVE
PROBLEMS PICKING UP AND SLEEPING WITH HER!”
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I understand.

But listen. You’re going to need this important information soon.

And let’s be honest - when you DO start sleeping with girls - wouldn’t you rather have the CHOICE to see them again or not?

That’s what my point is.